“Whatever we believe about ourselves and our ability comes true for us.”—Susan L. Taylor, journalist
There are times that life gets in the way. The unexpected too often interferes with the goals we are trying to accomplish. Would you like to see a technique that can fight back at the interference? Read more to find out how to achieve a more stressless way of living.
Have you ever wondered why people see the same thing so differently? What seems so obvious for some, is so different for someone else. This difference of perception is known as a world view. World views can be the joining of a great relationship, or the divide of a promising commitment. Even when the expectation of the outcome is the same, conflicts can occur in how to get there. On the other hand, different world views can be the basis for intellectual discussions, and new ideas for personal and professional growth.
World views are our ingrained beliefs. They develop from our experiences that invite our assumptions about those experiences. Our views include topics about politics, religion, relationships, race, interests, and all that we encounter. This formulates how we see the world. How we see the world is who we are and who we are becoming.
Our ‘world view’ defines our reality. It creates how we feel, what we value, what is important, what is sacred, and what we believe.
When our world view becomes problematic, it triggers stress. This is usually a result of having a negative view of the world. Symptoms of isolating from others, or frustration and irritation are frequently experienced. Negativity creates stress and chronic stress carries the danger of illnesses such as high blood pressure, heart disease, anxiety, depression, and weight gain. It is said that we have over 60,000 thoughts a day. Most of them are the thoughts we had yesterday and many are creating negative outcomes that never occur. This buildup of chronic worries impacts our psychological and physical wellbeing.
How do we interrupt the cycle of undeserving behavioral patterns?
Overcoming stressful events can be a trying process. One way to change perception is through a technique called REFRAME. It’s a way to look at situations in different ways. Changing perceptions can diminish stress and increase self-esteem. The car that cuts you off in traffic may be on the way to the hospital to visit with his dying friend. The mess left after a party means you have friends who want to be with you. The taxes you pay means you have a job. These are some examples of reframing a situation.
I love the story about the wealthy father who wants to teach his son motivation for hard work, so that he will be wealthy and not poor. They go to the other side of town and spend some days with whom the father perceived as poor. After the experience, the father asked his son what he learned from his experience. The son’s response: “We have a pool, and they have a creek that never ends. We have to buy our food, but they grow theirs. We have servants who serve us, but they serve each other. To protect us, we have a wall around our property, while their family and friends protect them. Thank you for showing me how poor we really are.”
This is a situation of how to reframe a situation. It looks at the same thing in a different way.
Mother Teresa once said, “We think sometimes that poverty is only being hungry, naked and homeless. The poverty of being unwanted, unloved and uncared for is the greatest poverty. We must start in our own homes to remedy this kind of poverty.”
See this short segment on poverty by United Nations: https://youtu.be/j7KKZ6v5o34 The following is from https://blog.iqmatrix.com/reframing-thoughts that offers an extensive look on reframing a situation. Here is what they describe as steps to reframe:
How to Reframe Your Thoughts
Step 1: Identify the Problem. Your first step is to identify the problem, state or limiting behavior that you are having difficulty with. …
Step 2: Challenge Your Assumptions. …
Step 3: Reframe Your Circumstances. …
Step 4: Test the Reframe.
As you look at challenging situations, note the ways you can see the same thing differently. By doing this, brain functioning improves. Practice this exercise regularly and notice if it reduces the stress in your life. Instead of resisting what you don’t like, find different ways to see the world in new ways to improve your psychological and physical health. If you would like help in looking at new ways to see your world, call Dr. Carole at 513-244-6990.
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