There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved. ~George Sand


Have you ever experienced “love at first site?” At that moment, you know this is the person for you. A powerful connection occurs that can’t be described. All the brain chemicals that create love come together to give you an instant romantic feeling. Do you still have that feeling? If not, here’s how you can get it back.

roseThe beauty of a rose
The couple gazed at each other in awe
Their heart raced

The definition of the rose
They liked the way they looked
A powerful attraction develops

The intricacies of the rose
Curiosity is at its height
They explore various interests

The message of the rose
With focus, the rose reflected both of them
They saw in themselves what they saw in the rose

What they gave to the rose, the rose gave back

The chemistry, wonderment, and excitement make up this kind of love at first sight. Like the thrill of a never-ending roller coaster ride, this is the beginning of a love connection.

Connections are a wonderful experience. To join with another. To love and be loved. You even love yourself even more.


Another season comes
The rose does not look as fresh
The connection is not as tight.

Petals begin to fall
Thorns reveal their prickly revenge
We step back.

Winds blow the blossoms to the ground
All looks barren
What use to be there is gone.

The beauty is gone
Fear of loss is evident
Hearts break.

Can You get the Love Back?

You can. Even when the blossoms are not in sight. Remember, you are the seed of that rose. Winter comes. Snow covers the base to prepare it for spring blooms. Rain and snow hydrates the earth, while the sun gives life to form the blossoms of the beautiful rose. As the rose heals, so can your injuries from the devastating loss.

How nice it would be if we could just sit back, close our eyes and experience that magnificent feeling of love. A world-wind experience. It feels like something beyond this world. If you’ve experienced it, it is out of this world. It’s the first stage that can last for almost a year. It propels us into the next stage of a more mature love.

Mature love comes with organization of tasks. Such tasks might include: how to handle money, who cleans what, how are daily tasks handled, and more importantly how to work through conflicts. Believe it or not, working through conflicts creates the kind of intimacy that supports true love. What are you doing to develop your blooms? This is how the bloom develops into a thriving rose bush. Ready to grow your thriving bush? Here is what you’ll need:

  1. Love yourself first

Take note of your physical appearance. Is there something you need to change or improve, i.e. the way you dress or hairstyle? Take interest in how you present yourself. Like the rose, cover every detail.

  1. Be you

You are the seed. You are uniquely different from all the others. Protect and treasure the seed. Recite affirmations to elicit self growth such as Coue’s verse that promises to change your life: “Every day in every way, I’m getting better and better.”

  1. Practice good health

This may be a good time to make changes.

Focus on the basics. Exercise, diet, regular checkup can make a difference.

  1. Keep what you cannot control in check

Remember the Serenity Prayer.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

If something is feeling difficult or awkward. Ask yourself if this is something you can control. If not, let it go.

  1. Lower your anxiety.

The obsession of whether you’ll find your love mate can actually interfere with your objective. The obsession is something you hope for in the future rather than developing the ability to appreciate this moment. Practice breathing deeply when you are distressed.

  1. Be grateful

Remember what you have to be grateful for. It is easy to take things for granted. Appreciating expands joy. Joy makes you more open to receiving gifts….even the unexpected ones.

  1. Give

There’s something about giving that make you feel like you are getting something . When you give, you receive. It comes from the heart.

It feels good to give. The more you give, the more you have.

Love is not easy. It takes work. It just doesn’t happen. It has to be nurtured to thrive.

Different kinds of love

We can find love into different areas of our life. It doesn’t mean that one way is necessarily better than another way.

Whether your spiritual love is the higher power your serve or whether it is a spiritual match, it certainly has credence in the categories of love. Love is love.

Have you ever experienced “love at first site?” At that moment, you know this is the person for you. It is a powerful connection that can’t be described. Truly all the brain activities that create love come together to give you an instant romantic feeling.

You have a friend or friends that you are just on the same plain in life. Even with their faults or yours, or all those annoying behaviors, you still are attached. You love your friends.

Blood is thicker than water. The importance of the connection is a bond that can’t be broken. Family is the beginning of where we first experience how to love.

Things you love
Some love their job, or where they live. Some love their possessions and sentimental things. Some have pets, or opportunities to travel, or read.

            To inspire love, you MUST watch this to the end

Love is a Flower and You its Only Seed

The Rose ― Bette Midler

Some say love, it is a river,
That drowns, the tender reed.
Some say love, it is a razor,
that leaves, your soul to bleed.
Some say love, it is a hunger,
An endless aching need.
I say love, it is a flower,
And you its only seed.
It’s the heart, afraid of breaking,
That never, learns to dance.
It’s the dream, afraid of waking,
That never, takes the chance.
It’s the one, who won’t be taken,
Who cannot, seem to give.
And the soul, afraid of dying,
That never, learns to live.
When the night, has been too lonely,
And the road, has been too long.
And you feel, that love is only,
for the lucky, and the strong.
Just remember, in the winter,
Far beneath, the bitter snow,
Lies a seed, that with the sun’s love,
In spring, becomes the rose.

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