Do you find your sadness invading spaces where joy belongs? Or perhaps your sadness hides from you dampening your spirit without your awareness. In whatever way your sadness is lurking, read more to discover how you can lift the veil of sadness for happier functioning.
When Sadness Speaks: Are You Listening?
Sometimes in tragedy we find our life’s purpose. The eye sheds a tear to find its focus. ~ Robert Brault
Sadness comes in many forms. It’s the disappointment that the package we ordered is not delivered on time. It’s the frustration that the computer program is not working. It’s the rejection felt when you’re not selected for something you had great hopes for. It’s the grief when someone special leaves.
Not to be ignored is when sadness grows beyond a temporary sorrow. When it becomes chronic, psychological concerns begin to magnify, and more physiological complications occur. This can be a sign of depression. With symptoms of sleep disturbance, increase or decrease in appetite, fatigue, and lack of concentration are common symptoms. While suicidal thoughts may occur, it is a suicide plan and harm to others that require immediate medical attention.
There are those who don’t hear the signs of sadness. They find ways to ignore the voice, even when the voice is shouting. The voice screams through health issues, or struggle in relationships, impairment of energy, clarity and daily functioning. And we talk back to the voice by blaming others or something else, through denial as we don’t wish to deal with it and through opposition of not trusting the shouts.
I know a woman who was devastated by the loss of a job. And while the devastation is understandable, especially when others are dependent on her income, she painfully grieved for months. How do you get through such despair? The agony, the suffering that can become so devastating in itself, a fleeting thought of wishing you were not around to feel it comes to the forefront. It’s a scary thought, sometimes a frequent thought that lingers and grow. When a plan of how to end it all comes to the forefront, time for professional intervention is immediate.
For years, there was a battle between the psychological fields and medical fields about what the best treatment is for depression. The medical field held their plight in medications that would create the biochemical to raise the point of feeling better. The psychological field was firm in it’s course that talking about ways to cope with the stressors and problem solving as what influenced a lifestyle where one could feel hope again. After a significant amount of research, it was discovered that both treatments conjointly was found to have the best results.
We know that depression has biochemical, psychological, and emotional implications. Emotions are fluid. Meaning that they change. They never stay the same. Waiting out sorrowful moments look better when the continuous wave of suffering flows slightly differently, giving way breaking the relentless pattern. If we would only realize that when a person is at the depths of his or her distraught, with plans of making suicidal gestures, if only they learn to wait. As, the emotion does change.
How long are you suppose to grieve?
I’ve heard people say, “The break up was a year ago, why don’t they just get over it?”
Actually, processing a loss is different for everyone. Sometimes it can be too short of a time. Jumping into a relationship during or immediately after a loss uses another person to console or prevent the grieving process. This is a time to learn from your part of a relationship. If not processed, you carry the baggage into the next relationship. How long is too long? When you have doubts that you are not getting over this in a timely manner. This is a time to see a professional to assist you in the process, not tiring your friends or relatives with the details.
Listen to the sadness. What is it saying? Write it down as a way to create a cathartic release. Talk to it. It is what it is. Say what you would like to get over. Be gentle with yourself. While it might seem harsh, be certain that once you accept what is, the intensity of the suffering diminishes. Be patient…it can change.
So how do we find our way out of the maze of confusion and depressed moods? Can we get the job we once experienced? What can one do and what can one do for others?
What to Do
- See your Doctor
- See a therapist
- Find a support group
- Read inspirational messages
- Deal with the issue
- Eat healthy
- Find ways to limit negative thinking
- Express ways in which you are grateful
- Find ways to be of service to others
- Get a pet
- Make a list of things to do
While some of these tasks may feel difficult to do at a time when mental and physical energy is taxed, all of the above have a way that plays a part in creating chemical brain rewards that play a part in alleviating depression. The more you can do, the better you’ll feel.
Need help? Call me and let’s discuss your road toward a relief from depression.