The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. ~Eleanor Roosevelt
Have you ever wondered what things will be like in the future for you?
Will it be the same as it is now?
Do you even want it to be this way?
Maybe you’ve had some thoughts about how it might be different.
Is there a fear of how successful you may or may not become?
Maybe you’ll be happy with the outcome, or maybe you won’t. Maybe things will work out for the best whether you like them or not. Whatever your thoughts about the future, there just might be a way you can help improve the outcomes.
Can better things actually happen? Yes, they can. There is a simple and compelling exercise you can do for healthier and happier outcomes.
What happens when apathy wins the race
Getting into a slump happens. The fear is always how long the slump will last. When apathy knocks and you let it in, it can take over. It can actually stop you from making a difference. When it keeps going, it wins.
Do you have any of the symptoms below that lets you know that it’s apathy in the driver’s seat?
- Lack of motivation
Lack of growth diminishes motivation. If you’re not growing, there is no motivation. Like a cycle, no growth, no motivation leads to no growth.
- Feeling sorry for yourself
While it may sound easier to sit around and just let whatever happens, the concern is that it can produce feelings of helplessness. That’s what happens when you don’t take action. It’s a state that contributes to what we know as apathy. And you know what happens when apathy hits… the creation of self-pity… and the self identification of “poor me.”
Not only do you begin to feel sorry for yourself, but depression can set in and that’s not much fun.
- Changing moods.
Irritability and despondency become enemies for success. They choke the life out of moving forward.
- Difficulty to making decisions
I talked with someone recently who had trouble making decisions. She couldn’t decide when to do her laundry, or even make phone calls. While this could be a symptom of many things, it became clear that she was not able to make a plan to make the kind of changes she wished would happen in her life.
How Being Stuck Can Kill You
Scientists are learning more and more about the impact of apathy. When one feels defeated in life, there are five stages they go through. Unfortunately, this can lead to death. They call this a psychogenic death. This is usually associated with trauma that leads to apathy. This kind of death can come as quickly as 3 weeks.
The condition is believed to be related to the inner workings of the brain. There is a region in the brain called the anterior cingulate circuit that controls motivation. It is possible that a trauma could trigger a malfunction in the brain that strips motivation.
Dr. John Leach from the University of Portsmouth in the UK did this study.
Here are the stages he found:
- Social withdrawal. Withdrawing from others is one of the first signs following a severe trauma. You can usually tell there’s an indifference to life. Prisoners of war have described this feeling.
- Apathy. It is difficult to be functional when one does not have energy to do even the smallest of tasks. It represents a deep sense of melancholy.
- Aboulia. This stage is represented by lack of physical activity. Complete motivation is lost. People describe their brain feeling like mush.
- Psychic akinesia. It is difficult to experience severe pain. Leach described one woman who was sun burned with second degree burns and didn’t realize it.
- Psychogenic death. The person disintegrates. They completely give up. The time between death can be as little as three or four days.
Fortunately, most do not go through these intense stages. Fortunately, the stages can be interrupted. Involvement in activities that increase dopamine can change the state of their life.
Even when we are feeling our best, what would it be like to be even better at what you do, or wish to do?
What would happen if You Meet your Future Self?
Your future self is a part of you
It is older and wiser
It knows you,
It knows your likes and dislikes
It knows how to comfort
It can guide you toward what you can become
If you want to be the change you can be
Ask your future self what it can see.
The future can be a minute away or as far away as decades from now. The future self is a guide for us, not the kind where we incur anxieties about what might happen. The future self moves fear out of the way.
Let’s see how your Future Self can help.
What can your Future Self Do for you?
Get ready to leave that place of being stuck. It is a place of no beneficial rewards. In addition, it complicates life with stress. Allow the messages you’ve received from your future self to resonate with you. This becomes a way of life that can reinforce joy and productivity. See how many advantages and rewards you can receive.
Questions to ask your future self:
- What do I need to do now to improve my health?
- What preparation do I need to achieve success in my career?
- What can I do to bring more wealth into my life?
- How can I accept difficult things out of my control.
- What do I need to do more of to make a difference?
- What do I need to do less of to make a difference?
- Who do I need to reach out more to?
- What is the one thing I’ll regret if I don’t do it now?
- How do I acquire more motivation?
- If I had no limitations, what would I do?
- What would you do if you could change the world?
- What will I become?
- How can I improve my relationships?
- Who do I need to forgive?
- How do I forgive?
- Who do I need to apologize to?
- How do I apologize?
How many other questions can you come up with? Your questions are unique to your situation. Just know this can be a helpful exercise with meaningful outcomes. Would you be willing to give a promising technique a try?
The Future Self Exercise
Find yourself in a comfortable place. Eliminate as many distractions as you can. Turn off tvs, phones and other electronics while you prepare to receive gifts from the future.
Close your eyes. Sit comfortably. With your mind’s eye, breathe into every part of your body. As your body relaxes go to a pleasant place that’s safe for you. A place to meet your future self. See what you look like.
Can you see the experiences and wisdom? Warmly greet the future you. That’s where experiences will be shared to guide you to a better place. You’ll receive a message. It might come instantly or later. It might come as a metaphor, a song, perhaps a reading. The future self will give ideas of what to do.
Listen for guidance in the major parts of your life: family, relationship, school, work, career, recreational, spiritual, or maybe there’s an area where you are just confused or stuck. Ask for help in that area. Listen. Quietly listen. When you are ready, you can thank your future self with enthusiasm to meet again.
The power is taking action
Being in a tough place may not bring joy or the satisfaction knowing that you can do more in life. The tough place may be a message to take a different route. Stretch more. Your future self can stretch you to become more than you thought possible. The future self can be your guide to a better you. Not only can you see what you might be like, but it can be a guide now for helping during tough times.
Ahh, whenever in doubt, this exercise offers a clarity and alleviates the anxiety that is such a part in wondering what’s going to happen. Remember that your most valuable moments are in this merry moment. The future self can join you now.
What Difference will you Make?
If you are ever in need of help
Simply contact your future self
Take the advice and then proceed
All of this is good use when in need
You deserve the best life has to give
Try it and decide how you wish to live.