When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened. ~Winston Churchill
News of destruction is rampant. It’s on tv, the radio, what you read, and even on commercials.
Like a surround sound, announcements of doom vibrate your thoughts.
This doesn’t seem real.
Will it stop?
Today’s events stimulate a ceaseless spin in negative thinking. Like a rolling humongous snowball, it grows and grows.
Why does this happen?
Research shows that reasons for over thinking stem stressful events, a trauma or phobia. Maybe something specific as the danger of the Covid virus or a break up of a relationship could precipitate the thinking. Sometimes perfectionism and bouts of anxiety play a part. Whatever the reason, there are predictable ways of managing it.
The good news finds ways that can interrupt the negative thinking cycle. When that happens, you are open to creative, energetic, and productive ways of living. Read on to discover 4 ways to help when thinking is out of control.
Look at the Problem in a Different Way
Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, “What else could this mean?” ~ Shannon L. Alder
Sometimes thinking gets into a rut. It cycles over and over. Someone once said that most of our thoughts are the same ones we had yesterday. And, it’s true. How common is it to recycle our thoughts?
Yet, remember that there are many ways of looking at the same problem. People interpret them differently. How do you begin to expand your thinking to see things in a different way?
The story below shows how to see problems in a different way.
The story of the farmer with 2 horses in a poor village was praised by his neighbors for owning 2 horses. The farmer said “Maybe.”
One day the horses ran away and the neighbors expressed their sorrow for him. The farmer said “Maybe.”
The next day the horses came back with a large herd of horses and they stayed on his land. The neighbors came by to say how lucky he was. The farmer said “Maybe.”
The farmer’s son decided to ride one of the wild horses. A horse threw him and he landed with a broken leg. Again, the neighbors expressed their sorrow. The farmer said “Maybe.”
When consignment soldiers came to take all the young men to war, they could not take the farmer’s son because of his broken leg. Neighbors congratulated him. The farmer said “Maybe.”
For each situation there’s a different meaning.
What problem do you have that could be seen as a positive?
Can you find a silver lining in the Covid-19 pandemic?
Heal the Emotional Pain
Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it. ~ J.K. Rowlin
Pain is a signal. It lets us know when to pay attention. Like the traffic light that turns red, it lets us know to stop. Pain, whether physical or emotional, reminds us of what we need to take care of. It’s a wake-up call that’s essential for personal growth and health.
Pain is a message that it’s time to do something differently.
Think about the times in life when you experienced an emotional pain. You either grieved or repressed the pain. Grieving has better outcomes. While pain doesn’t not feel good, it can open the door to growth.
How do you enhance the growth? Take time to work through all the uncomfortableness with the following points.
- Learn to live in the moment
- Journal your thoughts
- Talk about your concerns with a trusting soul
- Read what others are doing in similar situations.
- Attend online counseling.
Calm the Triggers
Everything that seemingly happens externally is occurring in order to trigger something within us, to expand us and take us back to who we truly are. ~ Anita Moorjani
What makes us react to a trigger? Triggers originate from something that occurred in the past. A past trauma or circumstance that was troubling could be the cause.
Positive triggers are also a part of us. The smell of fresh bread baking in the oven may remind us of grandmother’s home. Or the soft feel of your favorite throw may remind you of rubbing your favorite pet.
Triggers bring different emotions. A loud car passing by reminds you of a time when Dad’s broken muffler embarrassed you as you drove through neighborhoods.
To calm distressing triggers, you have to shift your emotional state. Sit still. Breathe and notice where the source is coming from.
I see a world on the edge of a blade. Without balance, it will fall. ~ Victoria Aveyar
Have you seen people who seem to have it all together? They are going to school, working, volunteering, have a family and still seem to have unlimited energy. Everything appears in perfect order. They look happy.
While everyone has their own style about how much they do and what they want to do, there is one thing that is important in making it work for you…and that is balance.
It’s important to have structure in your day. Somethings you do daily, at the same time and add to that what you wish to accomplish.
If you are a list maker, write it down.
If you learn best through listening, record it.
If you are visual, cut out photos to post.
If you would like a reminder, find ways to use an alarm.
Ask yourself: “Will this matter a year from now?” Or, imagine yourself one year from now and imagine how you would feel, if you did not make strides to accomplish your goals.
Balance calms the noise.
Ending the Thinking Virus
You can’t believe the destruction of the invisible that disrupts your life.
Constant rumination only gets worse.
Your fears grow with all of the unmanageable thinking.
You ask, “When will it all end?”
Now you know ways to handle the impossible.
You practice thinking about the situation differently. Perhaps, you find a silver lining. Even if you don’t see it yet, you know there is one.
You grieve the hurts of what was and create new ways to grow beyond the pain.
You know your triggers and practice calming the difficult ones.
Your beliefs that all will be well with you and the universe will unfold. See more about the power of your beliefs here https://changingwayz.com/seeing-is-believing-how-to-change-your-life-forever/.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So, throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. ~Mark Twain
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