You Can Rewrite Your Story April 7th, 2017

You Can Rewrite Your Story


“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”  —Abraham Lincoln

There are those moments when we feel like life is not working for us.  We just don’t want it to be the way it is.  I met a young lady today who said she just moved to Cincinnati.  She was from a small town in Ohio and said she just didn’t fit in.  Her social network consisted of drinking, drugging, and partying.  She wanted something different…something more.  So she asked herself, “What do I really want?”  So she listened to her inner thoughts, packed her meager belongings and moved to the City in search of opportunities.  I thought, ‘She just rewrote her story.’

Repetitive maladaptive behaviors, situations that are reoccurring, constant drama and constant stress impact our immune system and effects our health.  Our thoughts and behaviors determine our health.  So a change in developing a more positive response is beneficial to the quality of our lives. 

Can you do this? Is there a part of your life you would like to change?

Then Rewrite Your Story!

Use the serenity Prayer as a guide:

God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change

Courage to change the things I can

And the Wisdom to know the difference.

As you reflect upon the Serenity Prayer, what is an area in your life that you would like to be different?  Perhaps it’s a relationship, a job, a place of living, or just to have joy.  It could be as major as a complete lifestyle change as the lady I met today, or it could be a part of something else.  Look for possibilities that can improve the quality of your life.  Something you’ve tried before, or perhaps it could be something you’ve been thinking about.


Find a quiet space with paper and pen, or maybe you would rather use a digital device. Take a moment and visualize you doing and being the change you’d like to see and be. Now begin writing it descriptively.  Notice all your senses.  What are the colors?  What do you hear?  What are the smells?  What can you touch or feel around you?  What are the tastes?  Write nonstop with as many details and experiences of the situation.  Is someone or others with you?  Describe the connections in detail.  After your writing, notice something about you that is different.  Search further if it doesn’t come to you write away.  This is important, as you have to write that description in as much detail as you can. This is your change.  Experience the serenity, feel the courage and highlight the wisdom of the experience.

You have just rewritten your story! What have you revealed?

Books aren't written - they're rewritten. Including your own. It is one of the hardest things to accept, especially after the seventh rewrite hasn't quite done it. ~Michael Crichton


What is the next thing you need to do to make this happen?  If you take too long to decide, you’ve decided to keep things the way they are.  If you talk yourself out of it, you’ve also decided to leave things the way they are.  Self talk like “I am too old”, I’m not smart enough”, “I don’t haven enough money”, are ways to keep things the same.  Instead ask:  “What will it be like 5 years from now if I do it, or if I don’t.”  You decide.  Now what are you going to do next?

Give yourself permission to rewrite your story and identify opportunities to improve your quality of life?  It’s life’s fulfillment that adds a quality of meaning to our lives.

Interested in hearing a podcast about writing your story?  Then check this out this pod cast:

A good read on a scientific understanding of stress on the body is Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of trauma, by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.

If you would like to discuss whether counseling may be helpful to you, give me a call.

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"Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step."

~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

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