How to Make Lifestyle Changes by Practicing the Language For Change

Too often we talk about making a change and the response is one of silence. That's because there is an unused language for change. Language is the way we communicate with others and even with ourselves. That communication speaks of long-term behavioral patterns and beliefs, the firing of neurotransmitters that have their own way of expression, and just that autopilot within that responds to its own chatter. So, let's examine the language for change so that we can get rid of those 5 pounds, eliminate fears, and take more risks.  Contemplate using all of the seven contexts below to help you make those wanted changes:

1. Thoughts

Thinking is the foundation that drives our being. It dictates how we feel, what we believe and yes, how we behave. However, there is a part of thinking that is guided by that undirected autopilot. Because a cooperative autopilot is needed, it is important to train the undirected autopilot by repeatedly talking to it positively in the present tense. Instead of saying "I am going to..." , say "I am..." Or if you have a doubt, correct it with thinking that the change is already taking place. Cognitively, this constant repetition of positive thinking guides the autopilot toward cooperation.

2. Visual

Communicate visually. Visualization is powerful. See the change you desire already taking place. A visual representation of the thought encourages your autopilot to cooperate. Visualize the change until you imagine it as real. Believe what is happening. In a relaxed state, such as meditation, self-hypnosis or prayer, the experience is heightened.

3. Emotion

Your feelings are powerful communicators. We respond more to emotions than we do to facts. Feel what you want to feel as though your goal is already achieved. Practice these feelings and you can be amazed at the outcome.

4. Affirmations

Use your positive thinking, practice visualizing, feel the incredible change taking place, take action and be the change. Take time to follow these 5 communications for change, and enjoy your journey to changing ways. Your language does matter.

5. Action

You can do anything for just this moment. It's the collection of moments that make for change. Take action for one moment. Each moment makes it happen. Practice trains the autopilot to cooperate. This is how you create your tomorrows.

6. Powerlessness

Often, the more we attempt to control the behavior, the more the behavior controls us. Change is too often short-lived. That's when the power of letting go goes on record. When we realize that we are powerless, and that it is necessary to forgive ourselves, a freedom comes that transcends the clutches of the unwanted behavior. Feel the powerlessness, and when you forgive, you let it go.

7. Gratitude

And finally, to reinforce it all, have faith. Experience gratitude frequently. Believe that for every problem, and for every struggle there's a hidden message of great opportunities to be celebrated. Be grateful that you have the ability to change your language.

Remind yourself of using these seven tips to make changes. This is a new language. Use it often. Then notice that the untrained autopilot stops resisting and begins to cooperate with making the changes you desire.

Carole Stokes-Brewer. Ph.D. is a psychotherapist and clinical hypnotherapist. She provides psychosocial services to individuals, couples, and groups. As an approved consultant in clinical hypnotherapy, she currently conducts weight-loss programs known as Changing Weighs." The program utilizes clinical hypnotherapy with proven success. In addition, she designs wellness programs and learning materials to organizations on lifestyle change, stress management, weight management, addictions, and cultural diversity. Visit her at Sign in for monthly brain-boosting ideas.

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